Risky Business. Don’t Go Back.

Your stomach? Been there, done that. It didn’t work, don’t do it again.

Conscience: “You really shouldn’t be doing this. It didn’t work before, why would it work the second time?”

You: “Well, let’s give it another go. Maybe things will be different this time. We have to make sure that they are. It will all work out fine.”

Cartoon of a man running, a sign resign job

Some of us have experienced this in our personal lives, others may have experienced it in our professional lives – there are even a few poor souls out there who experience this loop over and over again. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Just as returning to an ex-partner is often ill-advised, accepting a counter offer from your company after you have resigned is equally bad judgement. It is universally recognised that once you have decided to leave a company, there is no going back. No amount of persuasion, financial incentive or extra management responsibility should be able to persuade you otherwise.

However, it is ever so easy to be lured into the emotional trap. After the last few months of hell in your company, culminating in your resignation, suddenly they are being nice to you again, telling you how essential you are and how they can’t do without you. This is designed to make you think twice, and it plants a seed of doubt in all but the strongest of minds.

exit sign with a cartoon man leaving the place


You never knew that they cared about you so much? Well, I’ll let you into a secret - they don’t. Just as a shocked partner might insist that they “really love you” at the point of no return, so might a company do anything to persuade you to stay, at least until they have found a suitable replacement.

89% of people that accept a counter-offer leave within the next year. You have broken the bond of trust and, like a jilted partner, the company will very seldom forgive. Once a trust is broken, it will never be fully restored. Nagging doubts will always linger.

So, when you resign, be resolute in your intentions. Do it in writing. Don’t enter into discussions about a potential rethink. Be consistent in what you tell management and your colleagues. You are moving on; it happens all the time, such is life. Don’t let it get personal, remain professional and make a smooth transition to your next role. You’ll be respected as someone that knows their own mind, and you won’t be burning any bridges.

The decision to leave part of your life behind is never an easy one. Embarking into an unknown future is a far more difficult path than keeping the status quo.

Yes, making a change is risky. However, how much riskier are the consequences of deciding to stay?

Written by Lee Narraway

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Come On……Give Your Brain a Break

Our brains are pretty special things. They hold a lifetime of memories, process thousands of subconscious commands every minute and help us navigate the optimal path through our days. From the moment we are born, to the moment we leave this world, they offer us a capacity for learning that sets us apart from every other species on this planet.

Human Brain blue lights

They will attempt to absorb everything that our busy lives throw at them, but, for them to remain in top-notch decision-making form, we need to give them regular periods of “chill-out” time to refresh their energies. That is rather unscientific language, but you can be assured that there is a huge amount of science behind the thought that regular “rest periods” allow the brain to catch up and get ready for renewed action.

If you use your brain’s refresh button on a regular basis, you will feel so much more in charge of your day and more able to meet the challenges that come your way.

Research has shown that our brains have two “modes” of operation, a “focused” mode when we are learning something new, thinking about a problem or working, and then a “daydream” mode where random thoughts flit in and out of our head with no real urgency. You might think that the first mode is the only one to impact our productivity, but you would be wrong.

Studies have shown that brain activity actually increases when our brains wander – we make connections that may not have previously been contemplated, and breakthroughs seemingly come out of nowhere. You know that great idea you had in the shower this morning? Yes, you’ve guessed it – “daydream mode.”

Worker drinking coffee

The “refresh” button doesn’t have to be pressed for long. You can go and make a cup of tea, have a stroll outside for 15 minutes or maybe even listen to some music with your eyes closed for a while. It needs to be enough for your brain to forget about your previous task (as it is not very good for concentrating on something for much longer than 45 minutes anyway), and after the break it will be ready to get back on track and at the same time ensuring that you are heading in the right direction.

I personally find that the 80/20 rule works particularly well for me. 80% of my working day is spent in hardcore work mode, the rest (split up through the day) is spent at an entirely more leisurely pace.

Giving yourself permission to do this is the first hurdle – you shouldn’t feel that your day should be a madcap race to the finish. You’ll be exhausted before mid-afternoon if you don’t add refresh breaks into your routine.

It may seem strange to say that to get any work done, you should choose not to work for part of the time, but it is firmly my experience that this is a the case.

Give your brain a break – it will repay you for it.

Written by Lee Narraway and Edited by Paul Drury

If you would like to discuss this then please get in touch with me and leave your comments:

Lee Narraway Phone: 01925747712 Email: lnarraway@procorerec.com LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/leenarraway Website: www.procorerec.com