Pressure is an ever-present factor in our working life. It would be easier to handle if everything were under our control, but there are so many times when we are at the mercy of events. The future in such a situation is rarely clear and you have two basic choices: Worrying about the outcome, or caring about the outcome. There is a big difference between the two.
Of course, you can choose to do nothing, but for the sake of this article, let’s say that this situation is something of huge importance to you. Let’s say you have heard that 100 people are going to be made redundant in your company. Your department have been told those scary words: “you are at risk.”
There will be those who will immediately worry about the potential consequences. They become terrified about losing their jobs, they go into their shells and start to take the “safe” business decisions rather than the right ones.
They spread fear and negative energy wherever they go, gossiping, speculating, feeding on any opportunity to make themselves feel a little better. A colleague didn’t hit their sales target? “Good, maybe they will be fired instead of me.”
Worrying is a stealthy emotion – you think that you are being productive by thinking about the potential situation, but it rarely leads to action…. In these circumstances, the worries merely get deeper and deeper.
Then, there are those whose first thoughts are caring. They wonder who might be worst affected and what they can do to help their colleagues in the situation. For them, action is going to be the solution to their problems. They think positively and consider what they can do to influence the situation.
They don’t lose sight of the opportunities in the situation and continue to hope for the best. They will be supportive of their colleagues and in return be supported by them. In a difficult situation, they will stand out as being the glue that binds their team together. Nine times out of ten, they will not be the ones to lose their jobs.
Worry is fear-based. It is a projection of negative energy. Caring, on the other hand, is a projection of positive energy. When you care about situations or people, you're hopeful that things will get better. When you worry about them, you're afraid they won't.
Clinical psychologist Chad LeJeune, Ph.D, talks about the idea of worrying versus caring in his book, ‘The Worry Trap’ “Worrying is an attempt to exert control over the future by thinking about it,” whereas caring is taking action.
“When we are caring for someone or something, we do the things that support or advance the best interests of the person or thing that we care about.”
In another example, worrying about your finances does nothing but give you sleepless nights. Caring about your finances means being proactively about creating budgets, paying bills and saving for future issues.
May we should all care a little more and worry a little less!
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